Dan, you say the tenor of the UK conversation and yet seen from here the EU aren't exactly accommodating are they. In your position as somewhat detached from the rest of us. Do you get to see and hear what the other countries in the EU have to say for themselves? Even as I say that I realise that the likelihood of anyone outside the inner-circle of the negotiations is only going to get the 'informed' opinion of their local media. I feel fairly sure that there is a game going on here as both sides set themselves up to pacify their home audience. In our case it's the divorce settlement and just how big a number it ends up at. There was some talk today about the 'rebate' being held back, by the EU whereas from our side that is an amount that we would probably use to soften any blow. All very difficult and it was always claimed to be so, not an easy ride for either side.
In fairness, what I read and pickup on is moderated by the Irish press.. particularly the Irish Times... A completely different animal from any of the British Times newspapers. It is a trust and would have more liberal Anglo Irish high church social values than much of mainstream UK newspapers. Its what is termed a " paper of record" and would for instance publish selected court opinions, and appointments.and proceedings of the Anglican churches, meetings etc. . It is the paper as read by civil servants, business and political leaders.. they may well read others as well but it is the opinion former.. . I hope that doesn't offend them...
That said and knowing that not everyone in Ireland will share the exact same views ..
In Ireland, we are extremely concerned about Brexit, more so it would appear than are the British whose alarmist headlines from the tabloids are on about personalities. Articles published are on the likely detremental effects on cross border trade, agriculture, normalisation of relationships between groups in the north..
There is continual chiving by government agencies on getting companies to protect themselves from the effects of a Brexit..growing alternative markets, changing product mix etc and this started within weeks of the referendum. In other words it has been seen here as almost an existential crisis, and we are not best pleased by UK government responses.
In our opinion, Brexit in any form is bad and becomes worse the more distant the relationship with mainland Europe becomes. Ireland was a close ally in Europe of the UK and shared a number of common positions. There is a sense of betrayal and a recognition that irrespective of a few pleasant words, the UK totally ignores Ireland.
Much of the UK discussion, and even on this forum, is about the sum of money needed to pay off the EU. That is to totally misread the situation. The money is just the shorthand for seeing what committment the UK has to a relationship with Europe. If that cannot be recognised by the UK then there is no basis for discussion.