I suspect meaningful dialogue about who we are and where were going in the uk will only happen after the brexit project has run out of steam
Very true. To understand who we are now requires looking at where the modern "we" came from.
From 1950 on as our former Empire disappeared we went into sharp decline, reaching bankruptcy by the early 1970s. Joining the EEC and the IMF taking over the management of our economy rescued us from that and we were gradually able to recover to an almost viable state, albeit with an ever growing national debt so an insecure future.
Now by leaving the EU we have reverted to the pre 1970 state with our economy declining due to the resumption of manufacturing losses and the ongoing loss of our most important export, financial services for the EU countries.
There's only three ways out of that:
1) Becoming as successful as Germany at manufacturing and exporting to the world.
2) Failing to achieve that and declining into a poor tourist destination, selling our story of history.
3) Rejoining the European project via either EFTA or the EU.
The first is as likely as pigs flying carbon neutral. The second is easy to achieve but a gloomy prospect for our young. The third is the obvious best choice, but it will still mean working much harder than we used to and succeeding better.
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