you added this bit after I replied, but its VERY important so I'm going to reply.
This is at the heart of my issues.
You think I should be more critical before I say its wrong...
I'd argue you're asking me to sign up to something you yourself don't even have a grasp of. What is Brexit??
No deal? Norway style? or something else... I know you might know what you want it to be, but there are 17 million of you guys who voted for this and you all have very different ideas. So how am I supposed to be in favour of something that hasn't even been agreed yet?
You should take what TM and David Davis say as truthfully the UK position.
We are looking for a deal more than Canada, less than Norway, a bit like Switzerland - a bespoke deal.
The EU wants about £60 billions. It isn't exactly a ransom, most of it can be justified liabilities. The last point is important. Although our net contribution is roughly 11 billions a year, we build up liabilities years after years, because the EU is ambitious, it plans to spend for ever more.
When you add the extra liabilities, about £4 billions a year, plus we can't decide on who will get EU money, there is a clear benefit to brexit regarding how the £26 billions that we commit to the EU project each year will be spent post brexit.
Most of us can agree at least on trade with the EU. 700 billions a year employ a lot of people on both sides and that volume of trade will grow for the foreseeable future.
So paying £60 billions where we know most of it are real liabilities for a trade deal is good business.