Let's try and clarify, as hub motors and crank motors are different. The faster a hub motor goes, the better it is for it because the current decreases with speed, so it gets less heat and load at higher speed and better cooling. The danger to a hub-motor is low speed, where loads are multiplied significantly and cooling is reduced.
The same applies to motor speed with a crank motor except that the speed restriction is on the bike rather than the motor, so with bad gearing, it's possible to have the motor turning at low speed when the bike is going at high speed, which is bad for the motor. As long as you keep the cadence high enough, there's no problem.
In all cases, the battery will take more of a hammering because it will be giving power more of the time. That's not such a problem with a hub-motor because of the reduced current at high speed, but nevertheless, it's could still be providing power when it would otherwise be resting, though it depends on the rider. If he's solely using the motor for power (no significant pedal effort), it would be better for the battery and the motor to go faster. This is assuming that the controller is starting to ramp down the power from 15mph or less, and that depends also on the winding speed of the motor. The ramping down would most likely be above 15mph if you had a high speed motor, though the current is flat until the ramp.
To summarise:
1. It's always better for a motor to run it at high speed than low speed.
2. There's never any more load on the motor when you use a dongle, though a crank motor would most likely be running with high load more of the time.
3. The battery never needs to give any higher power, but it would most likely be giving power for more of the time.
4. How you ride your bike has the biggest effect on the load on the motor.
5. None of this should influence the warranty when people sell bikes to fat guys that pedal slowly and cause the motor to run slowly, which destroys motors, controllers and batteries.
If I were selling bikes, I'd rather sell one to a guy that was going to derestrict it than someone that was going to labour it around at 8mph.
How many dealers said to the guy that brought his 3 month old Chinese bike back to the shop with a blown controller, "sorry, no warranty because you're too fat". or "sorry, no warranty because you're a lazy bar steward that doesn't pedal hard enough"?