Not so sure about the longevity if you de-restrict your Bosch or if you have the Sport model of the motor. Speaking from experience, I can say that my battery pack after 18 months of use (about 12 in de-restricted mode) started to drop noticeably in capacity. This was used about 3 times per week for a 24 mile commute (12 each way). When I started using it de-restricted, I used to be able to do a 24 mile round trip in Tour 1 mode on one single charge. After 18 months, I had to charge it after the first 12 mile leg of the journey to work as it then started to drop to 3 bars from 5 (instead of 4 bars from 5). I did used to also use it when I was riding it de-restricted quite often in Sport 2 mode and charge it once a work and once at home. This obviously didn't do it much good.
Basically, the more hard use a battery has and the subsequent increased amount of times you then need to charge it won't do it much good.
If anything, the Bosch motor is fine handling the extra burden of being de-restricted. The battery is not as forgiving. Therefore, Bosch do have a valid point to discourage tampering with their system - there are risks involved.
At peak power the motor (even the restricted motor) can draw over 500W in Speed 3 going up a steep hill for example. At 36 Volts this gives a current draw of 13.8A.
That's very disappointing, being a shorter life than most Cheap Chinese ones running at the standard 15 amps. My original 9aH Sunlova battery is still going after 3 1/2 years and 3000 miles at 18 amps, and the whole bike only cost £620.
I think that your cost of £250 is way too high. BMZ make other batteries with the same cells and the same standard of build, which they sell to other OEMs for less than that. The rise in price to £500 happens in several stages after it leaves the BMZ factory at a cost less than £200 (based on their other batteries prices).
Using a dongle on a Bosch doesn't change the peak current in any way, it only releases the speed limit, so it can't effect the battery in any significant way other than the fact that the battery will be used more above 15mph, so your wH/mile will go up,which will ultimately wear-out the battery sooner.
I think that you've also under-estimated the current flow. I've never measured the current, but I'd estimate that 18 amp would be more like it - maybe 20.