Agreed, but I've had the selfish option, seeing and enjoying the best of kids all around but with little of the responsibilities and costs. Those other peoples kids from long ago are out at work now, even paying my pension.Mmm. My kids are my only redeeming feature.. They can be frustrating, annoying, expensive pains in the arse... But I, ve had best time of my life with kids and gkids.
Decades ago in a home just in front of my lounge I saw young M growing up and in his teens played an important part in his progress, He's now a married man with a son and daughter. Then his sister lived in the same home and I saw her two sons C and J growing up from babyhood. They are now 22 and 18 and good friends of mine, always ready with a smile and wave.
And now my closest local friend living in my block is married and has a delightful baby son with a magic smile for me.
That's a problem with our society, single people like me have a big unfair advantage since we do not bear anything like our fair proportion of societies costs, financial and emotional, but get most of the benefits.
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