The shunt is normally like a staple withtwo short vertical legs and a longer horizontal bar. You should aim to get a nice blob on one of the vertical legs. The important thing is the length of the blob. It must be around 20% of the total length of the shunt. The guys that make Youtube videos often haven't got a clue what they're doing. If you put too much solder on, you can get all sorts of problems. I would say that 30% of the length is the absolute maximum.
Note that some controllers already have a blob of solder from the factory, in which case you solder 20% of the remaining shunt.
When you apply the solder, leave the soldering iron on the shunt for a long time after adding the solder to make sure it's properly fused. Be careful that the solder doesn't run down the leg through the PCB to form a big blob on the other side, and don't let it drip on the PCB.
You can normally access the shunt just by removing the end-plate on the opposite end of the controller to the wires - no need to disconnect anything.