OK, managed to get a couple of hours to work on the project today but have run into a few snags, looking for some (more!) advice.
I got the cassette and disc onto the new rear wheel without any trouble. Then I found that the hub motor housing was hitting the caliper, so had to add a bunch of washers to space it out. Because of that, I then had to add a bunch of washers between the hub and the dropout. And because of that, I had to add a bunch of washers between the disc and the disc mount to move it back in line with the caliper.
So currently everything is aligned fine and the wheel is sitting happily in the dropouts. I'm not too happy about my rear disc hanging out off a stack of washers, but am ordering some proper disc mount spacers to fix that.
The main problem I have now is that the torque washers supplied with the motor are currently doing absolutely nothing - here's a high resolution pic of the disc side:
The dropouts are relatively shallow, and there's probably enough material that I could start filing them to allow the torque washer to engage. But I'd be a bit worried about removing so much material from a pretty important area of the frame.
I also have torque arms and have cobbled together a bar to attach it to the caliper mount on the disc side:
Now I have the measurements I think I can probably build a more convincing version out of thicker metal, which may avoid the need for the torque nuts altogether.
Any advice?