Just look at what happened to civilians in the first week of the war in Ukraine. They were raped, robbed, tortured and murdered. So much for peace under Russian control.
Now you are being very silly, that was after the war started so in what way was that
peace under Russian control? If you think the Ukrainians are any better than the Russians in these respects, you are blind to what happened in the closing stages of WW2. The Ukrainians are Russians in all respects that matter, universally recognised post WW2 as the two most corrupt nations on earth.
After the iron curtain fell Ukraine had peace, and like all the Warsaw Pact countries were given the option of being independent, but like a few others chose to stay aligned to Russia so had a Russian biased government. They freely traded with the world but faced one restriction due to Russia, they could not join NATO.
And that is where your thinking is wrong in saying NATO would never attack Russia. This is not about being rational, as you rightly admitted, this is all about emotion, wars always are. It only matters that Russia
sees NATO as their deadly enemy and therefore cannot and will not peacefully tolerate it being so close. That wish should be respected by everyone, especially by their closest neighbours like Georgia and Ukraine.
Ukraine only had to agree not to fall for the USA's bribery to join NATO to enjoy independence and peace with none of your imaginary threats of bullying. Bullying by waging wars where they have no business to be is what the USA does, helped by Britain, continuously from Korea in the 1950s through to the Middle East and North Africa today.
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