Ahh...
Or more accurately, Arrrrggh !
There are 3 pins on the socket, and without the charger connected the two ground pins are shorted together.
However, when the plug goes in, only one is connected to the barrel of the power lead - the other one is left floating and disconnected...
No prizes for guessing that I managed to solder the floating one to the battery pack negative line - I’ll swap the controller negative feed and the battery negative so that there’s no way of accidentally hitting the throttle when charging.
Again, many thanks for your persistence, and I shall mutter to myself about choosing the wrong pin for a few hours more...