Hello Moorlie, I'm new to all this too so I'm following a similar learning curve (and loving it). I find this is a very helpful forum, plenty of experts and experienced people here to point us in the right direction.
Just swopped my saddle for a cheap gel sprung version, just to see what it's like as the old one was like sitting on a piece of wood. A long ride makes my seat bones hurt and after a few weeks of persevering it's not really getting any better. The roads are pretty rough round my way too which doesn't help.
Anyway, I'm a fifty something Sotonian too, so we can share local knowledge, swop spares and maybe go for a ride one day.